Systems Overload: Dating And Relationships Rule One

Friday, June 27, 2008

Dating And Relationships Rule One

Hobbit and Kira

I was looking at the post, Tips on How to Land a Date as a Geek, and it got me thinking about dating and relationships in general. I thought that there were some good ideas in the post but it got me thinking. There are a lot of single people out there looking for that special someone and maybe some of them have even given up on the idea that there is a special someone for them. I was thinking that I had some ideas that could be applied to dating and relationships, regardless of if you’re a geek or not. I plan to cover more of these ideas in the coming weeks, sprinkled in with my other normal posts. So without further adieu, here is my Dating and Relationships Rule One…

Do things that you like to do, especially when there is the possibility that you can meet people while doing them. The reason that this is my first rule is that you need to meet people. If you stay home, you’re not likely to meet people (unless you live in a college dorm, apartment complex, or some place where there are a lot of people). If you have a look at what you do on a daily or weekly basis, how much of your time do you spend where you’re actually likely to meet new people?

Besides meeting new people, this gives you a chance to meet people that like at least something that you like. Wouldn’t it be great if you could date someone that shares some interests with you? If nothing else, you would at least have that in common. If you date long enough, you’re bound to have been on a date with someone that has nothing in common with you and you eventually see that there is no real way to sustain the relationship. If you both share at least one common interest that you enjoy, then there is at least hope that a relationship can grow.

Lastly, while you might not meet the large number of people as you might going to a local popular bar, you’ll at least be doing something that you like to do and you’re getting out of the house. Going to the bar just to meet people can be very depressing and unrewarding for many people, and you have no guarantee that you’ll meet quality people anyways. By doing things that you like to do and meeting people through those activities, you’re setting yourself up to meet better potential matches. If the activity you’re doing is something that you really like to do, you’ll have more fun than just staying home.

One word of caution, do think about what activity you’re going to do and think about if you’re likely to meet new people that you might be able to date. If you’re a girl looking for a guy, you probably won’t find too many single guys hanging out at candle or Tupperware parties, or other activities that typically don’t interest most single guys. If you’re a guy going to a Star Trek or computer event will probably yield few eligible girls, most of the girls there are probably already there with someone else (maybe they only went as a favor to their boyfriend). In either case you might still make friends with someone that has single friends (and that could open up a world of possibilities). If you do decide to do the activity with low potential for meeting people, you should do so realizing that is the case, but at least you’re doing something that you like to do.

So I hope that you’ll take more time to Do things that you like to do, especially when there is the possibility that you can meet people while doing them. Do you have any tips about dating and relationships for all those people searching out there? If you have any other comments, I would love to hear them. If you liked this article, please consider subscribing to the blog via RSS or email, share it on del.icio.us or on Digg and pass it on to anyone that you think might appreciate it. Thank you. :)

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